To my Dear Daughter, If I'm not there to help you prepare for this next
chapter of your life, to help you decide who to spend your life with,
to be there to share your joys and sadness,
your girly giggles and your painful tears, know this ... Know that no
matter who you find, he is NOT your Mr. Right; Allah is. HE is the One
to depend on. HE is the One who will make everything alright. Your
husband will be your friend, but take Allah as your BF (Best Friend).
When things are good, be grateful to HIM, and when things aren’t so
good, cry to HIM. Know that your success isn’t in being the world to
this man. Your success, your worthiness is from Allah. You are not
incomplete without him. You were beautiful, complete, and worthy before
you married. Don’t try to change him into someone he is not. Don’t nag
him to get your way and don’t be afraid to love him. But love
moderately. Maintain your own happiness. Don’t become so full of him
that you are empty inside. Fill your being with the remembrance of
Allah. Know that you will have ups and downs. That's normal. And know
that when you have downs, it doesn’t equal divorce. Know that if you
have children, they'll be watching you, just like you watched me. Know
that if you distance yourself from him, he may distance himself from you
too, so don’t be afraid to be the first to come back. Remember to make
him feel important and appreciated. If you don't, who else will? Know
that if you want the man of your dreams, become the woman of your own
dreams first. Remember you have faults too. Work on them before you
correct his. Get your examples from the Mothers of the Believers and
female companions, not the celebrities on TV or movies. Know that even
though you saw your father & I smile & play, and you saw me
greet him at the door when he came home (even if I just saw him), that I
too had a tear-stained prayer mat. But I stayed. Because I knew you
needed me. I stayed because Allah made marriage to make us better
people, to give us companionship in this troublesome world. Know that I
want happiness & love for you. Better than what I had myself. And
know that the only way to get it is by sticking to Allah. And lastly,
know that I love you!
Smile :)
superblah!!!
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