"do not follow the steps of shaitan..."

"I felt something was wrong"
This is the sentence that kept repeating in my head over and over again since I heard it from my friend.
It was the answer she gave me that day when I asked her:
"why did you stop posting and commenting in our facebook group?"
At that moment she just replied:
"I felt something was wrong! I was wondering why it is happening to me!"
I was asking myself : how can I be too shy to look directly into the eyes of any of my male classmates and lower my gaze in front of him....but then, on this mixed group, I talk to him normally as if he is a closed friend of mine?! We exchange comments and likes ...we even crossed the limits and started to crack jokes and be intimate to one another many times. There, I am not able to control myself as I am spontaneous in nature!

Little by little, I started to feel that they (my male classmates) get used to the way I deal with them. I started to feel that there is a contradiction between:
my image in university, in one hand, where I am walking lowering my gaze, wearing my full Hijab and don’t talk to anyone of them except with Hayaa (shyness) and if there is a real necessity to do so,
and between my image in internet in that group, in another hand, where I deal with them as if they were close friends and cross limits by joking and laughing with them.
So, when one of the sisters pointed out this subject and waked me up, I was wondering why no one of my female friends in the group has never attracted my attention to that before?!

Then, I found out the answer to my questions: no one attracted my attention to this subject before because they never considered it (mixing with our male classmates and being intimate with them) something wrong.
For them, it is totally the opposite, they like it!
They would say that "we are all classmates"… "it is normal that we deal with each other" …. "We are all respectful", etc …
At that point, I became so confused!! Who is wrong and who is right?! By being in this group, should I be "open-minded" and "cool" or should I put limits in my relationship with my male classmates?!
If I put limits between me and them, would I be "extremist" or would I be on the right path?!

To find an answer for my questions, I decided to go back to my "Book of Instructions" (Qur’an) to which I always go back whenever I feel I am going astray.
And I found what I was looking to in Ayat 32 of Surah Al-Ahzab: "be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease (of hypocrisy, or evil desire for adultery, etc.) should be moved with desire"
and also Ayat 21 from Surah An-Nuur :"do not follow the steps of shaitan".
On that basis, I reconsidered my actions… I realized that I don’t have to be friendly to all people just because I have a social personality. I also realized that no men should be intimate with me especially that we are young. Shaytaan deceives people and opens the way that leads them to sin. He mixes things that are acceptable with things that are not acceptable, and mixes truth with falsehood. He comes to each person through something that is suited to them.
Personally, I witnessed many situations where someone gets attached to an "internet personality".
So, as I am so spontaneous and I can neither control my comments nor leave facebook definitely, I decided to leave that mixed group and focus on my facebook page to which I add only my sisters.
There we can joke, laugh and talk freely! And I prayed that Allah protects me from the evil of Fitnah, keeps me away from it and draws me closer to what pleases HIM.

After taking that decision, I became so relieved! All praises to Allah because I won the battle against my Nafs and slam the door in the face of shaytan, a door of fitnah which was wide open, just to please my Lord.
From that day, I became more aware of any comment I write. I check first to whom and what I write before posting it and check if it is really necessary to write it or not.
From now on, I deal with the brothers on facebook with my real personality not my facebooker personality!
Good company was the real strength which helped me to stop following that way and Duaa was my real weapon!
Alhamdulillah ♥

 

”How can I be that kind of Muslimah...."

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Dear sister ♥

When you say to a Muslimah : “be pure, be chaste! Be committed to your Hijab and Deen, preserve your heart for your husband!”
She would say:”how can I be that kind of Muslimah?!
Don’t you see all these girls around me not wearing Hijab?! Don’t you see all these girls around me having boyfriends?! I am really tired of trying to be different from them?! It is difficult to choose the opposite path as them!”
This is the answer for that :” dear sister, you said you are tired to be different and that it is difficult to follow the right path and you’re absolutely right! Who told you Jannah is for free any way? We must all work hard to have it… The reward will be so precious!
read this Hadith of Prophet Mohammad (Peace Be Upon Him) :” there are indeed ahead of you days that require patience. Whoever is patient during those days will be like someone holding to a burning coal. And the one who does this from them will have the reward of fifty men who do what he is doing.” The Companions asked: “Messenger of Allah, the reward of fifty of those with him?” He said: “The reward of fifty of you.”“
(Abu Dawud, at-Tirmidzi, and Ibn Majah)
From this Hadith we can realize that the more it’s difficult to stay on the right path the more the reward will be bigger! As much diffulties you face in obeying your Lord as much as you will get rewarded!
We can do it sister! Jannah is so precious and it really worth every second of tiredness and difficulties!
Believe me, that Day will come, when we will be all in Jannah (in shaa Allah) and we remember our days in Dunya and how much we struggled to win a place in Jannah and we would say:”Alhamdulilah, all that Jihad of nafs, all that tiredness and stress didn’t go for nothing, indeed every single second in Jannah really worth it!”

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